HELP WITH GRIEVING

Here are some key facts about grieving and tips for surviving the journey
(thanks to Dr. Bill Webster's help).

· grief is a normal and healthy response to any loss
· grief is a pain
· the worst kind of grief is your own
· the way out of grief is through it
· your grief is intimately connected to the relationship
· we grieve to the degree we have loved
· grief is not only a process but also hard work
· your grief work will take longer than most people think
· your grief will affect every part of your life
· grief is most unpredictable, like a roller coaster
· effective grief work in not done alone
· although grief work is never "over," it does change over time
· your grief is intimately connected to the relationship with the deceased

Tasks of Grief (thanks to Dr. J. W. Worden)
1. to accept the reality of the loss
2. to work through the pain of grief
3. to adjust to the changed world
4. to go on with life